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How to Become an Extraordinary Person (HAPPINESS and FLOW series #1)

How to Become an Extraordinary Person


When do people feel most happy?

What is ‘Happiness’ in the first place?

Let’s start with what happiness ‘Is Not’:

  • Happiness is not something that just happens.
  • It is not the result of good fortune or random chance.
  • It is not something that money can buy or power command.
  • It does not depend on outside events (but on how we interpret them).


J.S.Mill once said…

“Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so.”


Viktor Frankl…

“Don’t aim at success—the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue … as the unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.”


How do you attain so enigmatic a goal that cannot be reached by a direct route?

> You begin by trying to achieve control over the very contents that occupy your thought, or consciousness.


Now let’s look at what Happiness IS

  • Happiness is having Optimal Life Experiences.

Optimal life experiences are conceived by gaining control over your conscious mind.

This increasing feeling of control adds up to a sense of ‘mastery’ – as in: you feel yourself participating in the creation and unfolding of your own life.


Optimal life experiences occur when a person’s body / mind is stretched to its limits in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile – and is thus something that we make happen ourselves!



an individual who has made up their mind to consciously invest their attention toward a chosen goal – cannot help but become a more complex person.

By reaching ever higher and continuously challenging your skill level, you become an increasingly extraordinary person.

Obstacles in the way of Extraordinary

  • Misconception: the Universe was not created to answer your needs.
  • Chronic dissatisfaction of the current situation
  • Locked into biological or social ‘stimulus-response patterns’

More knowledge from J.S.Mill:

“No great improvements in the lot of mankind are possible, until a great change takes place in the fundamental constitutions of their modes of thought.”

Such ‘modes of thought’ include our conception or definition of ‘Happiness’.
One will always be dissatisfied if they believe happiness one thing, when in actuality, it is something else altogether. Improvement in one’s ‘lot’ comes down to how well the mind filters and interprets everyday experiences.

The first step to emancipation from biological and social control is to try and find rewards in the events of each moment.

An ordered and challenging mental environment is one in which attention can be freely invested to achieve a person’s goals. It is the opposite state of Entropy i.e. ‘Negentropy’, or FLOW.

If a person is able to organize their consciousness such that they experience FLOW as often as possible – then that person’s quality of life will inevitably improve.



Martin Colangelo : “The Better Movement Specialist”

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